« on: April 10, 2011, 06:07:07 AM »
Having known Timo since I joined this forum however many years ago, I'm obviously a little bit stunned to say the least.
It's always gutting when someone you consider a friend (no matter how distant) weighs their options and settles on voluntary non-existence. I feel for his family and other, closer friends who now have to learn to live without him as well as cope with the reason, but I think a few of us knew or suspected that this was coming. Unfortunately, knowing that someone is going to do something doesn't take away from the impact of them actually doing it.
From personal experience, there's usually a time after this sort of event when people start questioning themselves or proportioning blame, wondering what they could have done or said differently that may have somehow changed history for the better. This line of thinking is pointless and self-destructive, nobody can or should blame themselves for any of this. Sometimes people make a decision, there's nothing anyone can do about that. And as much as that decision may hurt or anger us, we should always respect the fact that it was never ours to make. If that comes over as cold or heartless then I apologise as that's the last thing I want to be right now, but accepting that it was nobody's fault is an important step in coming to terms.
I wish I could give the usual 'better place' speech, or deliver any sort of spiritual comfort really, but I would be a hypocrite if I did. What I can say is that Timo was a credit to the Slackerz old school, one of the sharpest wits in the drawer, one hell of a Risk player and a solid bro. I think it's safe to say that we all have fond memories of him, so as sad as the end of his life may be, let's not forget the laughter and good company he brought us during it.
His time with us may have been comparatively short, but I will treasure it always. He will be sorely missed, but his legend will live on.